Should we do a "1st Look"? Or maybe a "1st Moment"?
Should we stick to tradition?
Sometimes it's hard to know what would be best! Maybe one of you would like to do a 1st Look to keep that intimate moment between just between the two of you (or to take some of the pressure off of the ceremony)...
...OR maybe you prefer to stick with the tradition of not seeing each other until the ceremony. Here are some things to consider...
1. Doing a 1st Look can help reduce wedding day jitters and stress. Having a moment together may ease the stress of the wedding day and help both of you feel more relaxed before the ceremony.
2. Doing a 1st Look can be helpful in some wedding day timelines if you'd prefer to do some or most of the photos before the ceremony.
3. A 1st Look gives you the chance to have an intimate, emotional, beautiful moment together before the ceremony. Some worry that seeing each other before the ceremony will take away from the emotions of the wedding ceremony. From what we have seen it definitely does not take away from the emotion, it's just a bit different. The bride and groom tend to be more natural and relaxed, and they're able to actually enjoy that moment rather than be as uptight or nervous and/or surprised in front of a room full of guests who are watching to see the reactions.
4. Wanting to stick with tradition? (Or maybe at least one of you does?) Maybe a great compromise would be to have a 1st Moment rather than a 1st Look. You can exchange notes around a door, or hold hands around a corner without seeing each other. Can be a huge relief to share this moment together, saying a prayer together before the ceremony, or just spending a moment to talk to each other can help to calm those wedding day jitters.
5. If you want to share this moment with your guests, then waiting until the ceremony to see each other may be the best fit for you. These moments can be so beautiful and emotional and sharing them with your loved ones might be even more meaningful, especially when you look back on photos of them seeing the two of you see each other for the first time.
6. Most importantly, be sure that the two of you are on the same page. Sometimes a compromise may need to be made to meet in the middle. Talk it through and figure out what the best option is for the both of you as a couple. The most important thing is to discuss these things before the wedding day. Remember that it's a day that the both of you share together!
Jason + Heather